In my last post I wrote about negative self talk and the fact it is not okay to put yourself down or to call yourself horrible names. However, we’re human and doubting ourselves and being self critical is in our nature. Even the most self assured and confident person in the world will have bad days.
I have recognised some situations where I’m more likely to slip into being self critical and so I take measures to reduce the chances of falling into using unkind and judgemental self talk.
Like so many people, I’m likely to be unkind to myself when I’m struggling with my body image. Feelings of dislike and shame for my body and appearance are often triggered when I go clothes shopping. Feeling crappy about myself is definitely not limited to those times only 🤦🏼♀️ but it’s a situation where I know I can find body acceptance more difficult.
Because I have acknowledged that when I try on new clothes I can start to spiral into feelings of unease, frustration and disgust. I have developed ways to make clothes shopping easier and reduce the number of negative thoughts that arise.
Here are some things that I have found work for me, feel free to use them:
⁃ I remind myself that I am so much more than my body. My body does not equal my worth.
⁃ I don’t attach myself to one clothes size, so I will never say ‘I am a size X’. I will wear whatever size fits my body best.
⁃ If something doesn’t fit me or suit me I do not blame my body. That piece of clothing is wrong (for me), my body is never wrong. It is not what needs to change.
⁃ I show myself some self love and treat myself to a fake tan before I go shopping – might sound strange but I feel so much better when I have a tan, especially when the harsh lighting in changing rooms washes me out.
If you can, identify the situations where you know you will be harder on yourself, try to take steps towards achieving a more positive experience. Being self aware is the first important step to change our thought patterns. It allows us to move away from a place full of self loathing to a place of neutrality and self compassion and finally towards self love 💕